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Tea and Biscuits Book Discussion:

by | Oct 17, 2016 | Tea and Biscuits Discussions | 14 comments

This past month has been quite a stressful month for me and I keep wondering why am I letting life…that is all just LIFE getting to me keeping me from truly enjoying life, sleeping fully or even being able to enjoy a book without letting life get in the way.

I am the type of person where I worry….and worry and to the point where I worry about the strength of my heart….but I realize I am doing it to myself. Every time I get a check up with my doctor they say my heart is GOOD!!! So no worries there, but it is scientifically proven that stress can be quite harmful and it can keep us from truly loving life like we are meant to. I know this may seem to be a bit of a rant, but I do feel like I need to share this with all of you, mostly because it will be good to share some insights I have learned over the past few weeks!!!

First step to letting go of all that stress is deep breaths. I have found that when I worry way too much and I am letting the stress keep me from a good nights sleep or truly enjoying a moments peace….. I have noticed when I take just a few moments every morning and evening, and take some deep breaths. It has definitely helped me so much, it doesn’t make the stress or the worries of life vanish…but it helps you not let it get to you.

I read this one quote on Facebook that was truly inspiring:
“ A manifesto for a simple life:
Eat less, move more
Buy less, make more
Stress less, laugh more
Feel blessed, love more
Find a quiet spot every day and BREATH”

So perfect and so true!!! I know for me how hard these simple things can be especially when life can be so busy for us all. I honestly don’t know how you ladies do it with husbands and kids!!! Do you have servants and maids and the like? Because you are all my super heroes!!!! I am single, work full time and don’t do as much for my blog as many of you do for yours!!! Is there a secret ingredient? For myself, I like to take one step at a time. I do make the blog a priority though, mostly because its something I love doing and its more than just a past time or a little hobby….it’s a passion of mine and if I could make real good money doing it I would be rich by now hehe wouldn’t we all right? Another factor is that whether life is going good or not so good for us, I think its good to remember all the good things we have. Even the ability to breath fresh air, and enjoy a home cooked meal or doing a run in the morning with the sun shining has made me realize that simplest things in life are the most fulfilling. I am far from perfect and I have so much I want to work on, but running a blog can be so stressful right? It can really divide us at times. And the solution I have is don’t let the blog run your life!!! Its how I have done it for years and haven’t given up on it or let it go!!! I try to make other aspects in my life balance out with the blog. Its not easy to do this and the first few years I had a blog—-I TOTALLY didn’t do this at all. In fact, my blog was my LIFE. Not very healthy by the way, and I ran into some stumbling blocks along the way. But this past year or two especially, has really turned my world upside down in different ways. I am still not where I want or need to be personally, but I have found that when we take of ourselves, listen to our bodies and enjoy those special moments of peace and laughter, it can make all the difference in the world.

What are some ways that you have been able to keep your life stress free? To balance out your personal lives with the blogging world?

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14 Comments

  1. Quinn's Book Nook

    Oh yeah, I am definitely a worrier, myself. I had some real sleep issues earlier this year because work was crazy and I had so much dumped on my shoulders. But things are calming down now, and I’m so happy. I hope things improve for you soon, though, Renee.

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  2. Ann Lorz

    I worry all the time too! If something bothers me I go over and over in my head forever.

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  3. Karen

    I did a lot of this a few years ago to change how I react to stress and it really works.

    Since my dog has been sick the past few weeks I feel myself spiraling a bit. I’m definitely losing sleep waking up constantly to check on him. But I’ve been trying to get back to my better habits and workout – have a good meal – sleep when I can and try to get control again.

    {hugs}

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  4. Rowena

    I’m a worrier too. It sucks when there are things you want to do, read, watch and you keep worrying about everything under the sun that while you’re trying to enjoy yourself, you can’t because you’re stuck on the worries.

    Things that I do when I need to step away from the computer…visit family, make plans with friends or hang out with my daughter. We’re foodies and are always trying to try new restaurants around town so it’s easy for me to pick up and take off. Laughing and catching up with friends and family can do wonders to de-stress my life so I count myself fortunate.

    Big hugs!!

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  5. Michele H

    I think the quote you picked is perfect for those of us who are worriers, which I totally am. It’s so easy to get caught up in the stress of every day living, let alone when something goes terribly wrong. I’ve spent a lot of time this past year after getting diagnosed with breast cancer trying to stay focused and remember to breathe with the anxiety creeps up. Reading has been a huge source of comfort–aside from my husband and coworkers, of course! Music always calms me down as well, so I made up a few playlists that keep me in good spirits. (And even one with angry music for those days when you gotta get it out of your system! LOL) I think you’re exactly right that it’s the little things & getting back to basics that will make all the difference: fresh air, healthy and/or comfort food, time with friends/family/pets, and just appreciating being able to laugh or connect with others. 🙂

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  6. Sophia Rose

    For me, stress and worry cause me to go into tunnel-vision mode where my mind stays fixated and my perspective gets warped so I’m not even seeing clearly. I get so fixated that I forget there is a broader world out there and other priorities, even solutions. The exercising, eating, contacting friends and family, other unrelated projects help me find my equilibrium again. I can come back to the stress issue once I have a handle on my thoughts and emotions.

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  7. LilyElement

    Awww I get stressed like that too. I hope things calm down for you soon! I try my best to not let it get to me because it’s not going to change anything by worrying over it non-stop. Just try to take it a day at a time. If you need to vent feel free.

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  8. Blodeuedd

    I should follow those too

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  9. Jennifer_FairyTales

    Stress is definitely something I struggle with on a daily basis. I deal with it by reading books that make me happy and watching TV.

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  10. Carole's Random Life

    I love that quote. I have reached a point in my life that I am able to let go of stress. There are times that I would like to do more with my blog but I allow myself a break when I need it. I do work full time and have a high school age child at home as well as a household of animals. I just try to prioritize and finish as much as I can every day.

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  11. Lily B

    my husband does not have much care for the blog but he doesnt seem to protest either. He did tell me a couple of times that I read too much and not spend enough time with them, so I had to cut back A LOT. I went from reading 150 books a year to 22 so far this year, that is quite the cut back. I view my blog as a way to destress myself. I cut back on the amount of ARC I am reading because of that also.

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  12. Cyn @ Bookmunchies

    I’m glad you found some things to help with the stress! Having strategies to distress is really important/helpful. I’m usually a eat more and move more kinda person because I love food haha. For blogging, it’s knowing that it’s okay to take a break from it (i usually try to stock up on scheduled/finished posts when I’m on the ball so when I’m not I don’t feel stress). And remember to not feel guilty if you take a break to read! A break should not add more stress!

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  13. Joyousreads

    One of the things I learned about minimalism is learning how to identify that causes of my stress. In blogging, for example, if I force myself to write a review for a book for the purpose of staying within the 4-5 blog posts schedule I used to keep for myself, I know the review isn’t going to be written well. So I no longer keep a schedule. If I write 3 posts in a week, then so be it. I think it’s a lesson in our everyday life, too. Don’t force yourself to have fun. Identify the things that add stress and anxiety in your life. But most of all, learn to let go.

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  14. Jennifer @ Bad Bird Reads

    Stress can catch up to me too. Honestly, I have not found anything to help me with it yet. Happy you did.

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