This week I would like to talk about sex in romance….now I believe that this can be a sensitive topic, but I also think it’s a debatable one and I am interested in seeing what you guys think or want in romance.
I first want to talk about the evolvement of sex scenes in romance and how it has changed over the years. Now I haven’t been reading romance as some of you have. Only about 12 years, but in that time I have noticed a change in the amount of love scenes and not only the amount but what is also put in these scenes. When I first started reading romance, what I noticed was that the scenes were mild in some ways compared to what they are now. Most of the time it would be one or two or maybe three scenes. There was much more focus on building up the intensity and tension between the pair and molding the relationship emotionally.
But now adays….forget about it. What I see happening more and more is more readers demand more sex, authors deliver it but readers want more intense sex scenes. I am asked so many times do I read romance for sex? HELL NO!! Sex is fabulous and great and I do love seeing the physical attraction build. But I actually love my romance novels for the actual love stories. Its the primary reason I read them. The love scenes when done and written correctly, can be the glue that puts everything together and completes it. But I love scenes a strong relationship form in a romance. Do I complain when there is too much? I will be honest, sometimes. It can be annoying when I have to skip a ton of pages just to get through the sex to get to the actual story. So I do feel like there needs to be a healthy balance between the physical and emotional.
I believe it can be difficult for many authors to try to decide what is right to put in their story, to find what fits for them as well as satisfy their readers. If an author can deliver a satisfying romance 100%, then the amount of sex matters little to me. But is it enough for you guys?
There have been those certain authors that only put in kissing and milt touching in a romance but the writing is so well done….that it turns out to be a great romance. But then you can go to the other spectrum. Where you have a romance that has quite a few highly steam sex scenes and when the writing knows what he or she is doing can create a masterpiece of a romance. So in my mind, a talented author can work any time of heat into a romance and create a winner of a romance.
Questions For My Readers
So what about you all? How much do you need?
Are you picky about the sex scenes? Do you prefer them mild, medium and extra spicy?